I'm incredibly annoyed with my son's daycare. Well, more a person who doesn't seem to take things my son says seriously. Apparently, my son was on the playground with the others, and they all had dodgeballs. My son wasn't playing dodgeball, but was just kicking a ball to see how high he could kick it. Several other boys decided they were going to nail my son in the head with dodgeballs all at just about the same time. He says he got hit in the head many times, knocking off his glasses at one point. He thinks it was 5 times, but he's not sure now. I mentioned it to the daycare director, who pretty much blew me off, with a kids will be kids attitude. She said that they they told the kidlet that playing dodgeball can get you hit in places that hurt, and that it can knock your glassess off. I told her that he wasn't playing with them, and that they singled him out. She blew that off as well. She seems to do that quite often. I'm sure she's had her share of kids who lie about things, but she just doesn't seem to get the fact that my kid doesn't do that. The other teachers have figured it out, though, and have told me that.
The director's boss was walking by and overheard part of the conversation. He went in to talk to the director about the situation. The director said she'd have the teacher that observed what happened call me. I'm not holding my breath.
I hate the fact that my son keeps getting bullied at daycare. Unfortunately, it's the only daycare that he can go to, due to our work schedules. I could spend more money and hire someone to watch him at home. However, he needs the social interaction of the daycare. It's very frustrating.
I need to have a talk with the children's program director about teaching the teachers (and daycare director) about bullying. I know that there are programs on how to minimize it and how to handle it. I'm beginning to think that they need training for it. With his disability, he's a prime target for bullies. I feel bad for him. I wish that there was more I could do. I could quit my job and stay home with him. However, my concern is that I'm possibly going to have to take care of him for the rest of his life, and we need the funds. Besides, isolating him at home isn't necessarily good, either.
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3 comments:
Hi Agatha, I read your blog with great interest and must say that after raising a few kids who are now in college I have experienced this type of frustration with teachers and administration. The crime is not so much what the Bullies did as it is the response of the teachers and admin. Please don't get me wrong, what the Bullies did would want to make me strangle the little bastards myself but they are a product of their parents or lack of parenting...I have, in the past, contacted the parents of Bullies in person who caused my daughter physical and emotional pain and told them exactly how I felt, in some cases went to their homes, knocked on their door and faced them directly letting them know they are dealing with me. There is no two ways about it if it happens again at that school after the admin being warned it's nothing less than assault and the parents will hear from the police and/or a lawyer...it's not to be tolerated. Your son has special needs and there will always be challenges in his life as there are in your's and mine, but tolerating violence and living in fear is not one of them. If future events occur I would advise you to contact the school and the Bully-parents by registered mail and begin developing a paper trail and a case for yourself and any future children that experience bullying. Remember kids that are constantly bullied have higher rates of suicide and drug abuse. You are your son's greatest advocate, you are his world, you are his everything...stand tall and be proud, look his adversaries in their eyes and let them know they are dealing with YOU !
Ben in Bend (moondawg HW forum)
Agatha,
AS hard as it is with both parents working, stop by at lunch (if you can) and watch. I found the school was parking my daughter under a tree at recess and her "aid" was assigned as a recess monitor. Now the aid was paid by the state to take care and watch over my daughter not the entire school. I don't mind sharing resources, but this was just plane child abandonment. I had to go the the top kicking and screaming (have to tell you the buss story one day) to get action. Its sad, but the squeaky wheel gets the grease.
oops forgot to mention Dave in Mich
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